w regards to the previous post

one more thing. just one more.

if people wanna get a ride from me, shouldn’t they ask me directly?? even if you ask my best friend, i am still the driver. it doesn’t make sense does it? i go to B and say, Hey, can i take A’s car, please?

what’s wrong with people seriously. lol.

if you want to borrow something from a friend, you ask around the whole world for permission except the friend herself. got link, meh??

basic courtesy. works well for both you and me (= thanks.

 

ps. i am not emo nor am i angsty. yes i agree with something my friend said, sometimes people really don’t know how to 自动。and i think i really don’t want to be like that to my other friends too.

speaking up for all fellow drivers

dear friends,

i am not your chauffeur.

i can drive you and drop you if it’s on the way… but other than that, please don’t take me for granted. i love you, that’s why i’m willing to fetch you or offer you a ride. granted, i can go out of my usual way to give you a ride on some occasions. but i have no obligations towards you. please understand that. please don’t act as if our conversation topic ends on the point when i can’t fetch you. if you love me, don’t treat me like thrash.

just like you, i need some time alone to breathe also. sometimes i need my travelling time to be quiet and alone.

and please, be polite, okay? i don’t owe you anything.

if you want to take my car, ASK ME. don’t just jump on and tell me you’re joining me for dinner, when nobody said anything.

if you want to take my car, ASK ME, don’t try to play  mind games with me and make me feel bad for not fetching you.

you know what. one day when you start driving, you’ll realise how tiring it is….

and then you realise how demanding your friends really are, at times. just that they don’t really do it in your face.

(well im not specifically addressing anyone here. if you feel offended… maybe you’re one of them. haha)

well chia, time to set some boundaries!

 

edit//
Twentysomething says:
and u shd say
“and when you ask, it means i have the option to reject you”

Twentysomething says:
“and i can be free and still choose to reject you because i want my breathing space”
“i am not your mother”

Twentysomething says:
“pay me 500sgd a mth and i will be there to attend to your every transport whim”

BAHAHA ah kor you rock!!

 

deliberately livin’ life part2: livin’ on the edge!

got this off jiali.

bamz (it’s kinda cool to have a z after every word..apparently). God whacked me big time this week. i look at my previous post and seriously, when you ask God for this kinda things, God never says no!!! and God’s been speakin’ to me in the most amazing ways ever, one of them was during marketing subject study, which got me stumped for 10 minutes not over the survey question, but over what God breathed into my heart. God’s spoken, it’s now my responsibility to act on it. go chia!! thoughts and talk never make the difference, but actions do. here’s to livin’ life on the edge. this week is gonnna be more exciting than the last week!! i’m gonna be more hungry, be more aware of the Spirit, be closer to the breakthrough that i need. doing life with God, exciting ttm!!

deliberately livin’ life

as this week starts off, God reminded me about the essence of Christian life, how He intends for us to live our lives. He reminded me that Christian life is meant to be exciting, mean to be victorious, and i’m killin’ it by being contented to just ‘have a good and smooth-sailing day’. no, i’m not contented at all. the moment i heard that from God, i desperately wanted to live it out. i desperately wanted to have an explosive (in the good sense, boomsz) week, i wanted to live an above average life, and i kid you not, i wanted problems just so that i can depend on God so much more! no victories without battles!

survival is instinctive. anyone would want a good, smooth sailing, day. anyone could have that, simply by staying away from challenges and potential struggles. but that’s really not what i want. so what if i have school? so what if i have projects and a big pile of homework? so what if i have so much to do? am i just gonna settle for the very least of it, do the bare minimum and when my day ends, thank God for a smooth day?! NOOO. i am so not going to trade a fulfilling, victorious life for something so mundane and average. i don’t want to settle for second best, i WANT the best. so yes, i prayed for big things to happen. i asked God to let me run into problems so that i would fight the battles together with Him. what a crazy prayer right? but man, isn’t it so true? if i expect nothing, i’m just gonna hit nothing.

it burdens me how so many christians are just settling for the average life. where’s the energy!? where’s the fervour for more of God in our lives?!! where’s the expectation to see God’s hands move in our everyday lives?! i remember my Alevel days, i was studying, and at the same time on the ground serving my caregroup as well. it was tough, but soooo uber fulfilling. does life stop because of exams? no it definitely doesn’t. as much as exams is part of my life, well.. God IS my life. exams would come, exams would go, and once this period of my life is over, i’m not gonna get it back. so according to that same principle, i definitely have  more to study now compared to those days, but man, i choose to be passionate about life. i choose to be a full time Christian, livin’ the life that God wants for me.

i face you with a hunger for life and an appetite for more than the average, mr week ahead!!

月亮代表我的心

tonight our mooncake festival caregroup epic fail!! no sparklers, no mooncakes, no lanterns… LOL.

BUT……

it’s important to laugh at yourself for silly mistakes made and move on to better things, right cheng and althea?! i think you guys successfully salvaged the situation! (: instead of crying over spilt milk, clean up the mess and make everyone else’s life better, including yours! well done guys!

so we had such an impromptu awesome time playing pseudo 猜灯谜 (more like, CHINESE taboo) at the marine crescent playground, and laughing at our … this really really stupid game that althea led. the sentences were HILARIOUS!!! the funniest one involved our jasmine loh. hahaha.

and after that for one hour or so… we spent time listening to one another share about our families, and at the end of it, i thanked God in my heart because i saw how intricately He’s woven all these relationships, and how he brought us together into this one spiritual family too. the beauty simply lies in how different our backgrounds are, yet our heartbeats are the same. JCEA4, i’m thankful for a beautiful family like you guys (:

i also talked about my family… and i really appreciate my family: my mum, my dad, and my brother. my greatest wish is to see the folks receive Christ and stay in church. ah kor! keep praying with me kay!!

and i also shared about my spiritual family. brings both joy and tears to my eyes. shall not elaborate more. but i literally grew up with this church, albeit all the inconsistencies in my younger years. and i really thank God that the people in this family shaped me, my values and beliefs, and helped me grow in many many areas. its the family i never will wanna leave behind or abandon.

i love this family of God (: